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Falling in love is the best thing that can happen to you in this life but is love a good enough reason to marry someone. What qualities should a person you want to marry possess for your marriage to be successful? If you have been married or even in a long-term relationship then you probably know that love, passion and infatuation that were present in the beginning of the relationship tends to fade away with time. But if you want to marry someone and you want your marriage to last how you can prevent this fading? The answer might be very simple. You need to choose the right person to marry and here not only love is important but also the more similarities you have the better. It is a known fact that opposites attract. But do such relationship last? The answer is not that often and the reason is that the very qualities that attracted you in the beginning of your relationship may prove difficult to live with in the long run. Statistic says that the most satisfying marriages are usually ones in which the partners are very much alike. Here are some similarities that are especially helpful for a long term relationship and marriage.
 
Values. Most important ones are spiritual and family values. If you can’t agree on them it will course trouble later on. Life goals, religious beliefs, childrearing views - are just few of them that you need to consider
 
Intelligence.Research indicates that when IQ scores are within the same general range, stability in marriage is much more likely. And in this case it has nothing to do with education because some clever and capable people have never made it to college for different reasons. It is important that you both see things similarly and talk about them in similar ways.
Interests.If partners enjoy doing the same things, they can spend quality time together, sharing experience and enjoying the company of each other without ever getting bored. So the more common hobbies you have the better.
 
Intimacy. Sharing your innermost worlds, your deepest thoughts and feelings is what makes you intimate with the other person. When you discover shared emotions and views a binding together occurs that makes you feel like you were meant for each other or it can also lead you to realize that you do not think or feel alike. This is why intimacy is very important for a couple considering a long-term relationship or marriage.
 
Expectations.It is important that both partners have similar understanding of their roles in the relationship, of their duties and household responsibilities. It can be more traditional distribution of duties or a more modern one with equal responsibilities but as long as both partners agree on the same it does not matter which one they choose.
Love is what makes us want to be with someone and start a family, and we are not trying to tell you that you should not follow your heart! But we just want to recommend you while following your heart don’t forget to listen to your brain. Because together they will lead you to a happy and satisfying marriage!!

 

It is a well known fact that Ukrainian women are very popular in the West. Western men spend lots of time and efforts trying to achieve their goal in finding a Ukrainian bride. No wonder this happens because Slavic beauties are not only physically attractive but also possess some qualities that western women lack such as femininity, kindness and tolerance. But the main question that western men ask themselves is why all these educated, lovely and caring women are not interested in Ukrainian men and prefer looking for a partner abroad? We will try to answer the question here.


 

Statistically there are only 81 Ukrainian men to 100 Ukrainian women. So, the lack of men can be one of the reasons why the ladies are looking for a man abroad.

Also, Ukrainian men are used to treating their women with indifference, while Western men generally treat women as equals. Ukrainian women have a cultural leaning towards the family and the rearing of children and even women with careers of their own want to ensure that they have a lasting marriage to bring up their children well. But Ukrainian men usually like to party hard, which is not a way to a peaceful family life. So women in Ukraine have started to look abroad for men for whom family and home is the top priority.

Majority of women in Ukraine are naturally beautiful, like to dress nicely and stylish, appearance is very important for them while most Ukrainian men do not care about their looks at all. Western men are usually well groomed, dressed well, and keep themselves fit and healthy. What is also very important to Ukrainian women the fact that western men do not drink much alcohol unlike men in Ukraine.

Comparing to Ukrainian men Western men are more romantic and affectionate. They are not afraid to express their feelings. Ukrainian women being very romantic, feminine, sensual and sensitive themselves, want to marry a man who would cherish them, love them and be affectionate towards them.
Considering everything mentioned above, we come to understanding that the answer to the question ”Why Ukrainian ladies are searching for a foreign partner to marry?” is rather simple – they are looking for the simple things that all of us are dreaming to have - love, respect and understanding!
In conclusion we could add that Ukrainian women are a great match for those Western men who are seeking for a faithful and loving wife, nurturing and caring mother, passionate, feminine and sensual partner and a reliable and understanding friend! Good luck in your search!

 

 

 

 

 

What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. We collected here some quotations and definitions of Love for you to read. It is just few of them but we hope they will start you thinking of what LOVE means to YOU.love2

“Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing.” – Goethe

“Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.” – Mark Twain

“Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.” – Peter Ustinov

“Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.” – Erich Fromm

“Love doesn’t make the world go round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” – Elizabeth Browning

“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.” – Sophocles

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Now a bit of physiology:

Dr Fisher divides love into three categories involving different brain systems:

1) Lust (the craving for sexual gratification), driven by androgens and estrogens;

2) Attraction (or romantic or passionate love, characterized by euphoria when things are going well, terrible mood swings when they’re not, focused attention, obsessive thinking, and intense craving for the individual), driven by high dopamine and nor epinephrine levels and low serotonin;

3) Attachment (the sense of calm, peace, and stability one feels with a long-term partner) driven by the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin.

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The stylized heart (symbol) is a traditional European icon representing love.

And the last but not the least, and my personal favorite is this description of love by The Apostle Paul:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.”

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Maybe you have already found your love or maybe you are like me still searching for it, remember that life is worth living and LOVE is worth waiting!! Good luck in your search, never give up and you will definitely find dream marriage!!! 

 

 So you are finally planning to come to Ukraine and you wondering what to expect from Ukrainian culture, from your Ukrainian lady…No need to wonder about it… We will give you an idea of Ukrainian culture by telling you about the most popular Ukrainian dishes that your girlfriend can cook for you ( Yes, every girl in Ukraine can cook!!) or that you can taste in any local restaurant and you simply HAVE to try them while in Ukraine!!

The best example of Ukrainian cuisine is “borsch”. Borsch is a beet-based soup that can contain as many as 20 different ingredients and depending on the region and season you can enjoy red or green borsch – red one being the most popular one.

 INGREDIENTS

400g beef
2 average red beets
200g cabbage
4 little potatoes
1 carrot
2 onions
2 tomatoes
salt and pepper, to taste
parsley
dill
spring onions
  1. Put beef into a large saucepan and cover with 3 liters of cold water. Bring to a boil and reduce heat. Remove the grease froth from the broth surface with a spoon. Add one onion. Cook at low heat for 1-2 hours.
  2. Melt 1 Tbls. margarine in a saucepan. Cut red beets into thin sticks and add them into the cooking pot. Add tomato paste or sliced tomatoes. Simmer at low heat for 1 hour. If there is not enough liquid, add some broth.
  3.  Melt 1 Tbls. margarine in a frying pan. Add chopped onions and carrots that are cut into thin sticks. Cover and sauté for 15 minutes, stirring occasionally.
  4. Heat broth to boiling. Add chopped cabbage and potatoes that are cut into bars. Cook for 5 minutes. Add sauté and cook another 10 minutes. Add simmered red beets. Cook another 5 minutes. Add salt and black pepper.
  5. Enjoy it with someone you love! And remember that borsch is usually served with sour cream.
Potatoes are used in Ukraine as often as rice is in Japan. Popular dishes on the Ukrainian table are mashed potatoes and “deruny”. “Deruny” are potato pancakes that are easy to cook, very nourishing and tasty. You can eat them either hot or cold. And because they are so easy to make you can surprise your Ukrainian girlfriend buy cooking them for her!! Potato puree is another dish that is easy to make and that is served as a favorite background for various delicacies and meat dishes.

INGREDIENTS

3 Large potatoes
1 or 2 eggs, slightly beaten
1 tblsp. grated onion
2 tblsp. flour
1/2 tsp. salt
few grains of pepper
1/2 tsp. baking powder 

 

1) Peel, wash and grate potatoes on a fine grater and pour off some of the potato water. Add all of the ingredients and mix them thoroughly. Drop the mixture with a spoon in small rounds about the size of small pancakes onto a hot, well greased frying pan. Bake over a moderate heat about five minutes on each side, or until they are well browned and tender. Serve very hot with sour cream in bed for breakfast after a hot night with your girlfriend. :)

 

While in Ukraine, make sure you taste all the dishes we have mentioned here and you will get one more reason for marrying a Ukrainian lady! Or you might even decide to cook it yourself following one of our recipes! In any case, ENJOY YOUR MEAL!

Love is a strong attraction between the man and the woman. Usually when they have love they want to create a family. At first they don’t even think if they are compatible or not. They love each other. And then it occurs that there is a problem, the problem of mutual understanding of two opposite sexes, usually it happens when the family is created.

 

All classifications are to define if two types of personality are compatible with each other or not.
However if you have got to know what kind of a person you need, you should not find such a person and get married with him/her Girl of Your Dream at once. Because the key rule of personal psychological compatibility sounds like this: no rules are present here.
Basically it is possible to tell that all types can be both perfectly compatible, and absolutely unaccommodating. It also depends, except results of testing, on many other things. It is said that compatibility is when people are similar. A woman loves to communicate and her partner likes the same, he would like to have a rest on the nature and she doesn’t mind too, they both like to sit in the silence, enjoying each other with no words. They also like identical dishes, kinds of music, and their views on life are identical. Will it be forever? At first, yes. But then they will have problems in relations for sure.
There is another type of “compatibility”. A man says – a woman listens up to him, a woman solves – a man performs, one orders – another submits. It is good only from the first sight. Quarrels can begin because they have different views on life.
 

 

If you have grown fond of someone and suddenly you find out that your second half is not compatible as to the type of personality you need, cheer up! All types of the personality can get on, if they know features of each other and secondly, if they consider right what is positive in the partner, and what is negative, and thirdly – the most important thing! – If there is a mutual desire to get on, otherwise, readiness for the certain compromise, then everything will be just fine. It is important to accept another such as he/ she is, and not to hope that in marriage you will manage to alter her/him. It will not be possible. If something obstinately and actively is not pleasant to you – do not marry better at all.

And in general we can add that no matter what type of personality you have and no matter if you are compatible according to it, if you don’t love and respect each other, you will not have a strong and happy family. And on the contrary – if you are absolutely incompatible according to a science, but really both wish to be together – you will be able to do it. The only thing is you have to learn how to live together, but not to alter the inside world of each other.

If you still want to define what type of personality you own, there are some very good links for you. You can have tests and then you will know for sure how to build relations with people of different characters. Good luck! 

Studying psychology of the man and the russian women, their differences from each other, has a direct relation not only to the person, but to all society as a whole. The questions connected with features of a sex of a person and its psychological distinctions, recently often are included into number of most actively discussed problems in a society. The main reason for this is that the role of the man and the woman in the public environment undergoes considerable changes today. The social psychology of a gender is a huge field for studying of installations, prejudices, discrimination, social perception and self-perception, self-esteem, occurrence of social norms and roles.

In psychology the gender is socially biological characteristic with the help of which people make definition of concepts “man” and “woman”. Social psychologists consider that the two principal causes why people try to correspond to gender expectations are a standard and information pressure. The term «standard pressure» describes the mechanism of how the person is compelled to be arranged under public or group expectations so the society would not reject it. Punishment for refusal following gender roles can be severe. Ajatolla Khomeini, the governor of Iran with 1979 to the middle of 1980th has cancelled all the laws giving to women any rights, and has sentenced to the death penalty in the general complexity of 20 thousand women which did not observe the accurate rules regulating their clothes and behavior.

Rudiments of differential socialization can be seen before a birth of the child. As an example, the desire of parents and surrounding people to know who will be born, the boy or the girl. Much depends on this: as they will name him, what clothes, toys will buy, as he will bring up. Already in 3 years children with confidence carry themselves to a man’s or female gender, it is called as gender identification. At this time children start to notice that men and women try to look, be engaged differently in different activity and are interested in different things. In the course of differential socialization the role of children’s toys is very great. Toys and games help girls to practice those kinds of activity which are connected with preparations for motherhood and being a housewife, develop ability to communicate and skills of cooperation. Boy’s toys induce to invention, world around transformation, help to develop skills which will lay down in a basis of spatial and mathematical abilities later, encourage independent, competitive and leader behavior.

Part 1. The restrictions, imposed by a traditional woman’s role.
One of the considerable restrictions imposed by a traditional female role presently is that the working woman continues bearing the burden of household chores and responsibility for children. The working single ladies carries out on the average 69 % of housework. The increase in a share of time which women devote to work has led to only small reduction of their house duties, but the quantity of time spent on caring about children remains invariable. In work a woman has usually lower status than a man. The majority of the most prestigious trades in our society like science officers, doctors, professors of universities are literally occupied by men.

Women, which try to create a career, sometimes face such phenomenon as «a glass ceiling». This metaphor expresses the fact that in some organizations there is an invisible ceiling above which women cannot promote. The standard stereotypes, assuming that men are much better leaders than women, are partly responsible for existence of “a glass ceiling».

Many people consider that everyone in this life deserves what receives and receives what deserves. We are necessary for believing that it is so. This concept «such is a life», as a social psychologist of M.G.Lerner says, often helps men and women to justify obvious social inequality about which we speak. This concept leads to occurrence of negative stereotypes where women are considered as a “weaker sex” on purpose to explain their lower status and low payment of work.
 
Part 2. The restrictions, imposed by a man’s role.
 
Today a few researches exist concerning restrictions, which are imposed by a traditional man’s role. Psychologists have started to study a woman’s role after the attention of a society has been involved by feminist movement of the low social status of women.

For the last some years the man’s role has used escalating attention of researchers. The structure of role norms of the man develops from three factors. The first is connected with expectations that men win the status and respect of others (norm of the status). The second factor, norm of hardness, reflects expectation from the man of intellectual, emotional and physical hardness. The third factor is an expectation of that the man should avoid female employment and activity kinds (norm of antifeminity). The norm of success (status) – a gender stereotype asserting that social value of the man is defined by size of its earnings and success at work. Variety of restrictions is connected with this norm for the man.

Men are inclined to choose work and career depending on how many well it is paid. Financial pressure especially burdens those men, whose wives keep the house and do not work. If some persons depend on you economically, it seriously presses on mentality. The point of view is that the main duty of the man in a family –to bring the big salary regularly and of course it negatively influences on the execution of parental functions.
Also there is an assumption that the fear of feminity occurs from fear of homosexuality and is caused by a social context which usually attributes homosexuality to men with lines of feminity.
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How great is the difference between men and women? From all aforesaid it is possible to draw a conclusion that gender distinctions are not too great as it is considered to be. We cannot tell with absolute confidence in any way that gender distinctions can be proved biologically. Our gender role is influenced by a large quantity of external factors since the birth. We observe the behavior of our parents and other adults, try to imitate people of the gender, we play certain games. Mass media create stereotypes of feminity and courage which we cannot disregard in our society. We grow, trying to correspond in the majority to our role, to be the real man or the real woman, but not always agreeing with the things which a society orders us.

Not all people are ready for long distance relationship and friendship , but very often our hectic life doesn’t give us a chance to meet each other even when we live in the same city let alone a lot of thousands of kilometers. So, if you think that long distance relationship is not possible you simply are not ready. All relations can probably come to their happy end, and love through a long distance is not an exception. We never know where we can meet our kind and beloved person. Someone finds him or her in the nearby street, but someone can find True Love in another country.

Maybe you can say that such relations cannot be long and serious; however, this is not true. Of course, this type of relations needs a lot patience and work but when both people want this, then everything is possible!

You will be amazed by the fact that long distance relations can also have not only cons but pros as well. Distance and time are good for “heating” of positive emotions. And every time you feel this pleasant waiting. Your haven’t had a meeting yet, but you are waiting for it with great impatience and positive thoughts. Then, long distance relations will give you such an opportunity to travel a lot, and this is so interesting to meet new people, find out new facts and things, see new and interesting places. And of course you will never be tired of communicating with your beloved person because your rare meetings will not give you such an opportunity.
 

But to preserve these relations you also should have a lot of fantasy and desire to do this! You always can make some surprises for your lady – you can send her some unexpected gifts – bouquet of her favorite flowers without any reason, romantic card with your warm words. And don’t forget that you can always call to your better half to say hello or good night, or maybe to say how much you love and miss her! Everything is in your hands! And there is nothing bad in the fact that an ocean lays between you. If your feelings are true you will overcome it! dating services

The nature has awarded each of us with a natural charm that only needs to be seen. Every single beautiful ladies is individual, everyone is beautiful. We can carefully hide the beauty behind a make-up, a bad mood, and improper clothes. But the nature does not do errors, and it has awarded each of us with the originality. It is only necessary to have the wish to see it. The fashion can dictate everything, the true female beauty admires with its individuality.

The beauty ideal developed during many centuries. And each time it was absolutely different.

The prehistoric period. The first known images of the woman are a short trunk, the person without the outlines, the hypertrophied breasts, a stomach, hips, tiny hands and feet. All it defines a cult of fertility of the woman: the beauty and a survival are closely connected between themselves in representations about the first female ideal.

The Egyptian canons of beauty. At the time of the Egyptian civilization the image of the ideal woman was submitted to certain canons. Among women of that time the Egyptian tsarina of the beginning of the New kingdom of Jahmes-Nefertari, was known as the Beauty Ideal. She was the object of a cult of personality and a deity: statues represent her as a beautiful high harmonious African of an athletic constitution, with long feet, with round buttocks and a small breast.

The Greek beauty: almost man’s body. During the archaic period (VII-VI  centuries BC) Statues never represented real people, and embodied an ideal of beauty, virtue, valor or sacrifice. The similar ideal in a greater degree corresponded to the young man. Women were represented draped in dresses, allowing to see an outline of their mannish athletic body. The beauty was based on the harmony of a body, instead of on art taste.

The Middle Ages: the purity ideal. In the Middle Ages a make-up was forbidden by all-powerful Church as it deforms the divine creations. Maiden Maria was represented basically by a figure deprived of any feminity: the Roman statue represents it exclusively as support for baby Jesus on her hands. The whiteness of a skin symbolized cleanliness, purity, and also riches and idleness. All these were very much appreciated in girls of that epoch.

The medieval nymph often hidden under wide clothes, the body of the ideal woman should correspond to special canons. The beautiful female should be broad-shouldered with a small elastic breast, a wasp waist, narrow hips and a roundtummy. The youth and fair hair deserved special attention.

The Renaissance: returning of feminity. At the time during the governing of Katrina Medici blush was imported from the East to France.  Henceforth beauties of the French Court yard did the make up eyes, eyelashes, eyebrows, and lips, nails and cheeks in red. Courtesans from Venice, having a reputation for the most beautiful women, have brought into fashion a new ideal of beauty: the blonde with magnificent forms and a pale face (the well-known Venetian blonde).

The Renaissance: the terrestrial woman. In Renaissance a female body appears again in not religious art. It is again idealized. Many elements do not have anatomic proportions: too long neck, too sloping shoulders. But in Renaissance art there was also a realistic movement. Aristocrats and patrons of art, who admired withcold female beauty of works of Raphael, loved also round forms of women Titian and Rubens.

One of the chronic men of XVI century shows his original absolutely non-standard formula of female beauty, multiple to number three.

In his opinion, the beautiful woman should have:

Three white – a skin, a teeth, and hands.

Three black – eyes, eyebrows, eyelashes.

Three red – lips, cheeks, nails.

Three long – a body, hair and hands.

Three wide – a thorax, a forehead, distance between eyebrows.

Three narrow – a mouth, a shoulder, a foot.

Three thin – fingers, hair, lips.

Three roundish – hands, a torso, hips.

Three small – breasts, a nose and feet.

A XVII-th century: the cult of refinement. At the time of a classical epoch, beauty corresponds to accurate canons of a cult of refinement. Women should have a dairy complexion, a slender waist, an impressive breast, a bit chubby hands.

A XVIII-th century: Returning to natural beauty.

A XIX-th century. Between the chaste wife and the painful beauty.

La Castiglione, “the Queen of hearts of Empire”, is considered to be the most beautiful woman of that time, personifying beauty of a female smooth dairy body with magnificent forms and an impressive breast.

The Second model of creativity of a XIX-th century is painful feminity. It is a question as of sincere illnesses. This beauty has painful pallor, dark circles under eyes and hollow cheeks. Similar signs of a melancholy and despaircorrespond to an image of the woman who is mysterious, inaccessible, and fantastic.

The XX-th century: from the girl-guy to beauty Merilin.

The XX-th century: from the girl-guy to beauty Merilin. In 20th years the fashion of the girl-guy dominates: shortly short-haired hair, easy, in a short skirt. Hips and a stomach should be flat, a small breast, and dresses should show brawny enough hands and harmonious feet.

After the Second World War leanness is considered to be a sign of bad health. Hollywood, all-powerful factory of dreams, creates a new female ideal: the sexual blonde like Merlin Monroe. The well-known actress began the career, posing bared for calendars, became a beauty symbol. The platinum blonde is an embodiment of cleanliness and sexuality, passion and children’s naivety.

Gradually bourgeois ideal is superseded from consciousness. There comes time of refusal of the established model of beauty and clearing of the woman!

The fashion can dictate everything, the true female beauty admires with its individuality. In our time there are no certain canons on beauty. Blonde girls attract with their cleanliness, purity, naivety.

And brunettes attract with their mysteriousness, a fatal sight and sexuality.